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Ruphail's avatar

If an argument comes off as especially bad to my ears I avoid voicing criticism, and this is often my most common reason for avoiding it. Either I think it’ll come across very harsh, or I don’t think it would be worth engaging with the person. Sometimes I’ve voiced criticism, and I got the sense that I was disliked for it (It wasn’t confirmed), and that fear also often stops me from engaging. Engaging in a positive or neutral way I find is easier.

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Markus Stoor's avatar

Seems like underengagement could explain underdeferment trough some kind of inner availiability mechanism.

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